We all experience the split up blues at some point in our life, but the pain can go much deeper if you were truly in love. A lot of the time a relationship ends because it's the best choice - nobody gets along and it's obviously over. However, plenty of loving relationships break up for all the wrong reasons, then one or both sits around thinking about what might have been for the rest of their lives.

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If you still have feelings for your ex lover boyfriend and would like to win his love back then you need to be very specific in your approach. Don't even think of apologizing right now. That's the last thing you want to do is start apologizing for everything under the sun. This will only make you look like you're unsure of why the break up happened and you're just saying anything to get them back and it takes away from the true problem - and that's what caused the break up.

Most relationships split up because there is one or maybe even a few remaining issues that are dividing two mates and slowly building a level of resentment in one or both sides. If this issue isn't addressed then it will reach a boiling point which typically comes in the form of someone walking out of the relationship.

Some common issues that cause lovers to call it quits:

Trust is gone- something may have happened where you or your ex lover did something that resulted in a lack of trust.

Loss of interest- have you or your ex lover lost interest? Maybe nobody tries to keep the interest alive anymore?

Met Someone- maybe one of you found someone else that makes you feel the way your ex lover did when you met? Or the other way around.

Grown apart- perhaps you both have grown apart?

Incompatible- maybe what you or your ex lover thought was compatible is mistaken?

There was likely one major issue that sparked the break up, you need to find exactly what that issue is and discuss it with your old partner. Any form of getting back together without addressing the issues that resulted in the break up will not be successful very long. Always keep in mind; communication is the key to a happy relationship.