It could very well be that you have grown out of the relationship and think there is no way of getting back with an ex after years . People grow over time. If you or your former spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend have gone through an emotional growth spurt then it could be that one of you outgrew the other. It could also be that you outgrew the need for the other. People change and where you had so much in common and had so many common needs, there may be little there. If it really is a good idea to get back together with ex then you will find that both of you really do need each other and make each other stronger. Look closely, though. Have your paths diverged? Are you like a stream that has branched off into two? Look honestly at the direction you are going and be real about it.

Getting back with an ex after years is not easy but is possible

Could it be that one of you really is more interested in the other more than they are in them? Are you more interested in a relationship with them than they are with you? Is it the other way around? If you think that you might want to get back together with ex then you should be somewhere near the same in level of interest. You should be on pretty equal billing here. There should be a mutual admiration society of two going on here. If there isn't that balance, then it probably isn't a good idea getting back with an ex after years .

Now is it a matter of one of you being controlling over the other? This is something that is very common in couples and is a leading factor in unhappiness within the relationship and is a major part of breaking up or divorce. In this instance you will really have to take a good, hard look at the situation. Is is emotionally healthy for both of you? Are one of you in the driver seat and the other a captive passenger? Then this really probably isn't a situation where it is a good idea to get back together with ex.

There are many other reasons that people break up and those may not have been the situation that the two of you were in but the principle applies for most every situation. Take a good and honest look at it and fight to see the reasons that it won't work. If you can convince yourself that it will only end in a breakup again, then you shouldn't do it. If, however, you decide that it isn't guaranteed or even mostly likely that you will break up again, then it could be a good idea to get back together with ex.